When we lose someone or something important to us, we experience grief.

There is no right or wrong way to feel.

However, if these feelings are affecting your day-to-day life, you might need some support to help manage it.

Grief, loss and bereavement can affect people in many different ways.

Symptoms can be different for everyone, but include:

  • You feel shocked, numb or in a daze
  • You feel overwhelming sadness and cry a lot
  • You feel tired or exhausted
  • You feel angry
  • You feel guilty

You can find a longer list of symptoms on the NHS website.

Your first port of call may be self-help as it’s the most accessible option. Simply paying attention to your own emotional needs can sometimes ease the effects. Self-help may include:

  • Relaxation and breathing exercises
  • Speaking to someone you can trust
  • Getting enough sleep
  • Exercising regularly
  • Limiting your intake of caffeine and sugar
  • Accepting help from others

Talking therapies, like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), might help you deal with your loss. CBT tries to change the way you react to situations by adjusting the way you think and behave with ‘coping skills’.

Sometimes it may be necessary to use medication to lessen your anxiety. You can see a list of medicines we might offer you on our Choice and Medication portal.

If you’re in a mental health crisis and need urgent help, call the Single Point of Access on (01472) 256256 and select option 3. They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Alternatively, you can call NHS 111 free from a landline or mobile phone.

North East Lincolnshire Mind will give you emotional and practical support if you are dealing with bereavement. You can call 01482 240133 (between 8am and 8pm, 7 days a week) or email info@heymind.org.uk

Open Minds offers a range of therapies aimed at helping you to deal with your feelings and should be your first port of call if you’re looking for support. You can self-refer to Open Minds online.

Safespace provides instant support if you’re vulnerable and need assistance with your mental health out-of-hours. You can speak to the team using Zoom or by calling in via telephone, between 6pm and 10pm, Monday to Friday.

You could also consider making an appointment with Simply You – our beauty and holistic therapy service. They have a range of treatments that can help to relieve the symptoms of sadness or anxiety.

NHS mood self-assessment: This short questionnaire will help you understand how you’re feeling and signpost you to the most appropriate support.

Orcha Apps Library: This library lists thousands of NHS-approved health apps by condition, making it quick and easy for you to find support.